Asking your kids about school may be one of the first things you do as soon as they get home. However, starting a conversation with your child about school is not that easy. As parents, we tend to forget that our kids had to deal with several activities during their day at school. Bombarding them with questions when they arrive home may not be the best way to get them to open up.
Do you need help to get your kids talking about school? Here are some helpful tips to try.
Let them wind down
Most kids tend to get defensive when you immediately ask them about school as soon as they get home. So don’t rush, instead, give them a warm greeting when they arrive home. Let them get as comfortable as possible. Instead of starting with questions about school, ask about other interests that they have to get them in the talking mood.
As soon as the kids start talking about random stuff, just listen to see if they are going to share some things about school. It is always better if they are the ones to bring up the subject. And when they do, take the opportunity to ask them about their day in school.
Go beyond “how was school?”
When you get a chance to ask your child about school, make sure that you skip “how was school?” or “how was your day?” This question will typically give you “fine” or “nothing” for an answer. There are alternative questions you can ask children to get them to share their day. For example, ask “who did you have lunch with?” or “what games did you play during your P.E. time?” You can be as creative as you want when it comes to asking the right questions. Try open-ended that can’t be answered by a simple yes or no.